Àgwà nke ịbụ «isi awọ òké», ma ọ bụ otú uwe na-enyere aka nweta ihe ịga nke ọma

Kwa afọ, anyị na-eyi otu uwe ahụ, na-aga ọrụ na-adịghị amasị anyị, anyị enweghị ike iso onye anyị na-enwe ahụ́ erughị ala, na-atachi obi na gburugburu ebe ndị na-egbu egbu. Gịnị mere o ji dị egwu ịgbanwe ihe?

We tend to think in terms of negative experiences. Often we say this: “Yes, this is bad, but it could be even worse.” Or we compare ourselves not with the more successful, but with those who did not succeed: «Vasya tried to open a business and lost everything.»

Ma ọ bụrụ na i legharịa anya, ị ga-ahụ, dịka ọmụmaatụ, ọtụtụ ndị ọchụnta ego nwere ihe ịga nke ọma. Gịnị kpatara? Ee, n'ihi na ha na-etinye ego n'ezie, ọ bụghị naanị na ọ bụghị nnukwu ego, kamakwa oge, ike, mkpụrụ obi. Ha malitere azụmahịa ahụ ọ bụghị na nnukwu mbinye ego, kama site na ịnwale niche ha na-akụ nzọ na. Ọ bụ maka ụzọ ziri ezi, mana ọ na-achọ mgbalị. Ọ dị mfe ịkasi onwe gị obi na mmadụ emebeghị nke ọma. "Anyị adịghị ebi ndụ nke ọma, ma mmadụ enweghịdị nke ahụ."

A mụrụ na USSR

The attitude of “standing out and sticking out is dangerous for life” is a legacy of that time. For too many years we have been taught to “walk along the line”, to look the same, to say the same thing. Freethinking was punished. The generation that witnessed this is still alive, remembers well and reproduces in the present. Fear is written in the DNA. Parents unconsciously instill this in their children: «better a titmouse in the hand than a crane in the sky», «keep your head down, be like everyone else.» And all this for security reasons. By standing out, you can draw too much attention to yourself, and this is dangerous.

Àgwà anyị nke ịpụghị iche, ịbụ "oke isi awọ" na-abịa site n'oge ọ bụ nwata, ọ naghị adịcha mma. Ọgbọ anyị yi uwe n'ahịa, ike na-agwụ anyị maka ụmụnna nwoke na ụmụnna nwanyị, ọ fọrọ nke nta ka ọ bụrụ ihe ọ bụla nke anyị. O wee ghọọ ụzọ ndụ.

Na ọbụna mgbe anyị malitere ịkpata ezigbo ego, ọ bịara sie ike iru ọkwa ọhụrụ: gbanwee ụdị, zụta ihe ndị a chọrọ. Olu nke ime na-eti mkpu, "Oh, nke a abụghị maka m!" Na nke a nwere ike ịghọta: n'ihi na afọ iri abụọ, ha biri ndụ dị ka nke a ... Olee otú ugbu a na-a nzọụkwụ n'ime a ụwa ọhụrụ na-ekwe ka onwe gị ihe ị chọrọ?

Dressing expensive — losing touch with the family?

Àgwà a na-akpali ọtụtụ ndị: “N'oge ndụ m nile, anọ m na-eyiri uwe n'ahịa, na-eyikwa uwe ndị ọzọ. A nabatara anyị nke ọma. Inye ohere ka ukwuu bụ imebi mmekọrịta gị na ezinụlọ.” Ọ dị ka n'oge a, anyị ga-ahapụ ezinụlọ, ebe onye ọ bụla na-eyi akpa na uwe dị ọnụ ala.

Ma, site n'ikwe ka ị zụta ihe ndị dị oke ọnụ na ihe ndị dị elu ma si otú ahụ ruo ọkwa ọhụrụ, ọ ga-ekwe omume "ịdọrọ" ezinụlọ dum n'ebe ahụ, nke pụtara na njikọ ahụ agaghị akwụsị. Mana ịkwesịrị ibido n'onwe gị.

Kedu ka uwe nwere ike isi gbanwee ndụ gị?

There is a beautiful expression: «Pretend until you actually do it.» In creating a new image, this approach can and should be applied.

Ọ bụrụ na nwanyị chọrọ ịghọ nwanyị azụmahịa na-aga nke ọma, ma ọ ka nọ na nrọ nke nrọ na ịhọrọ echiche azụmahịa, iji nwee obi ike karị, ọ bara uru ịga ihe omume azụmahịa na nzukọ ndị na-adịghị mma, na-eji ejiji dị ka onye na-achụ nta ego na obere obere. onye nwe azụmahịa n'onyinyo nke ya. Cheedị echiche banyere ọdịnihu chọrọ n'ụzọ zuru ezu dị ka o kwere mee ma malite ịkwaga n'ebe ọ nọ, malite obere, dịka ọmụmaatụ, na uwe.

Ọzọkwa, ọ bụrụ na anyị azụta ihe na-amasị anyị n'ezie, na-ewepụ echiche ahụ na akpa ma ọ bụ akpụkpọ ụkwụ enweghị ike ịkwụ ụgwọ dị ukwuu (E kwuwerị, ọ dịghị onye ọ bụla n'ime ezinụlọ nne na nna natara nke ahụ), ka oge na-aga, ego ga-enweta "ga-enweta".

Zute na uwe

Is it really possible to become more successful if you work on your appearance and style? I will give an example from practice. I had a student. I analyzed her Instagram account (an extremist organization banned in Russia) and gave feedback. She was involved in organizing the provision of medical services in Germany. Treatment is expensive — premium segment. This: description of procedures, recommendations — and her personal blog is dedicated. My client used her photographs as illustrations. She herself is a beautiful woman, but the photographs were of poor quality, and the image itself left much to be desired: mostly short flowered dresses.

N'ezie, taa, anyị niile aghọtala na nzukọ site na uwe na-abụghị kpamkpam ziri ezi. Ikwesiri ilele onye ahu n'onwe ya, n'ogo ihe omuma ya na omuma ya. Ma, ihe ọ bụla mmadụ nwere ike ikwu, anyị na-emeghachi omume n'ọtụtụ ihe na-akpaghị aka, n'amaghị ama. Na mgbe anyị na-ahụ otu nwa agbọghọ na-eji ejiji na-enye ọrụ ahụike na Europe maka nnukwu ego, anyị na-enwe mgbagwoju anya. Ma na-ele nwanyị anya na uwe, na-eji ejiji dị mma, onye na-ekwu maka ohere nke idozi nsogbu ahụike, anyị na-amalite ịtụkwasị ya obi.

So I advised the client to switch to business suits in light colors (association with medical services) — and it worked. Thinking through your image, it is important to build a chain of associations with what you do, what services you offer. Building your image and personal brand is an investment that will definitely pay off.