The infancy period lasts from birth to one year. What to educate at this time?
Children need to be taught how to use their parents properly.
Situation: Christoph, 8 months old, fully breastfed. He recently grew his first teeth. Suddenly he began to bite hard on his mother’s chest. Task — Christophe needs to be taught the rule: “You have to be careful with your teeth while breastfeeding.”
His mom applies a timeout: with words «It was very painful!» she puts it on the play mat. And he turns away for a minute or two, ignoring the weeping Christophe. At the end of this time, she takes it and says: «We’ll try again, but be careful with your teeth!» Now Christophe drinks carefully.
If he bites again, mom will immediately put him on the mat again and leave him unattended, and wait 1-2 minutes to attach to the breast again.
One more example:
- Paul’s story, 8 months old, you already know from the first chapter. He was always extremely unhappy, crying for several hours a day, despite the fact that his mother constantly entertained him with new attractions that helped only for a short time.
Ekwetara m ozugbo na ndị mụrụ m na Pọl kwesịrị ịmụta otu iwu ọhụrụ: “Ekwesịrị m ịna-atụrụ ndụ onwe m n’otu oge kwa ụbọchị. Mama na-eme ihe nke ya n'oge a. Olee otú ọ ga-esi mụta ya? Ọ kabeghị otu afọ. Ị pụghị ịkpọba ya n'ime ụlọ wee sị: "Ugbu a na-egwu naanị ya."
Mgbe nri ụtụtụ gasịrị, dịka iwu, ọ nọ na ọnọdụ kachasị mma. Ya mere, mama m kpebiri ịhọrọ oge a iji hichaa kichin. Mgbe o dosịrị Pọl n’ala nye ya arịa kichin, ọ nọdụrụ ala lee ya anya, sị: "Ugbu a, m ga-ehicha kichin". N'ime nkeji iri sochirinụ, ọ rụrụ ihe omume ụlọ ya. Pọl, ọ bụ ezie na ọ nọ nso, abụghị ebe a na-elebara ya anya.
Dị ka a tụrụ anya ya, nkeji ole na ole ka e mesịrị, a tụbara arịa kichin n'akụkụ, ma Pọl na-ebe ákwá, kwụgidere n'ụkwụ nne ya ma rịọ ka e jide ya. Eji ya mee ihe n'eziokwu na ọchịchọ ya niile mezuru ozugbo. Ma e meziri ihe ọ na-atụghị anya ya ma ọlị. Mama kpọọrọ ya ma tinyekwa ya ọzọ n'ala n'okwu ndị a: "Achọrọ m ihicha kichin". N'ezie, iwe were Pọl. O we welie olu iti-nkpu ma rute n'ukwu nne-ya. Mama m kwughachiri otu ihe ahụ: ọ kpọọrọ ya ma tinye ya ntakịrị n'ihu n'ala na okwu ahụ: “Achọrọ m ihicha kichin, nwa. Mgbe nke ahụ gasịrị, m ga-eso gị gwuo egwu ọzọ" (ndekọ gbajiri).
Ihe a niile mekwara ọzọ.
Oge ọzọ, dị ka ekwekọrịtara, ọ gara n'ihu ntakịrị. O tinyere Pọl n'ọgbọ egwuregwu, ka o guzo n'ihu ọha. Mama nọgidere na-ehicha ihe, n'agbanyeghị na mkpu ya na-eme ya ara. Kwa nkeji 2-3 ọ tụgharịrị gakwuru ya wee sị: "Nke mbụ, achọrọ m ihicha kichin, mgbe ahụ enwere m ike soro gị gwuo egwu ọzọ." Mgbe nkeji 10 gachara, ihe niile o lekwasịrị anya bụ nke Pọl ọzọ. Obi dị ya ụtọ na mpako na ọ tachiri obi, ọ bụ ezie na ọ dị obere ka a rụpụtara n'ihe ọcha ahụ.
O mekwara otu ihe ahụ n’ụbọchị ndị sochirinụ. Oge ọ bụla, ọ na-ebu ụzọ mee atụmatụ ihe ọ ga-eme - hichaa, gụọ akwụkwọ akụkọ ma ọ bụ rie nri ụtụtụ ruo ọgwụgwụ, jiri nwayọọ nwayọọ na-ewebata oge na nkeji iri atọ. N’ụbọchị nke atọ, Pọl akwaghịkwa ákwá ọzọ. Ọ nọdụrụ n'ọgbọ egwuregwu na-egwuri egwu. Mgbe ahụ, ọ hụghị mkpa a na-egwu egwuregwu, ọ gwụla ma nwatakịrị ahụ kpọgidere ya nke mere na ọ gaghị ekwe omume ịkwaga. Pọl ji nke nta nke nta mara eziokwu ahụ bụ́ na n'oge a ọ bụghị ebe a na-elekwasị anya na ọ gaghị arụpụta ihe ọ bụla site n'iti mkpu. Na onwe ya kpebiri na-esiwanye egwu naanị ya, kama ịnọdụ ala na-eti mkpu. Maka ha abụọ, ihe a rụzuru bara ezigbo uru, yabụ n'otu ụzọ ahụ, ewebata m onwe m ọkara elekere ọzọ nke oge efu maka onwe m n'ehihie.
Otu ruo afọ abụọ
Ọtụtụ ụmụaka, ozugbo ha tiri mkpu, nweta ihe ha chọrọ ozugbo. Ndị nne na nna na-achọ naanị ihe kacha mma. Ha chọrọ ka ahụ́ ruo nwa ahụ ala. Na-adị jụụ mgbe niile. Ọ dị nwute na usoro a anaghị arụ ọrụ. N'ụzọ megidere nke ahụ: ụmụaka dị ka Pọl adịghị enwe obi ụtọ mgbe nile. Ha na-akwa ákwá nke ukwuu n’ihi na ha mụtara ihe: "Ịti mkpu na-adọrọ uche." Site na nwata, ha na-adabere na nne na nna ha, n'ihi ya, ha enweghị ike ịzụlite ma ghọta ikike na ọchịchọ nke onwe ha. Na-enweghị nke a, ọ gaghị ekwe omume ịchọta ihe masịrị gị. Ha anaghị aghọta na ndị nne na nna nwekwara mkpa. A oge n'otu ọnụ ụlọ na mama ma ọ bụ papa bụ a ga-ekwe omume ngwọta ebe a: nwa na-adịghị ntaramahụhụ, na-anọ nso nne na nna, ma o sina dị adịghị enweta ihe ọ chọrọ.
- Ọbụna ma ọ bụrụ na nwatakịrị ahụ ka dị obere, jiri "ozi m" n'oge "Oge Out": "Ekwesịrị m ịsacha." "Achọrọ m gụchaa nri ụtụtụ m." "Ekwesịrị m ịkpọ." Ọ pụghị ịbụrụ ha n'oge. Nwatakịrị ahụ na-ahụ mkpa gị ma n'otu oge ahụ ị ga-efunahụ ohere ịkatọ ma ọ bụ ịkatọ nwa ahụ.
Ikpeazụ atụ:
- Remember Patrick, «the horror of the whole band»? The two-year-old bites, fights, pulls out toys and throws them. Every time, mom comes up and scolds him. Almost every time she promises: «If you do it one more time, we’ll go home.» But never does.
How can you do it here? If Patrick has hurt another child, a short «statement» can be made. Kneel down (sit down), looking straight at him and holding his hands in yours, say: «Stop! Stop it now!» You can take him to another corner of the room, and without paying any attention to Paul, comfort the «victim». If Patrick bites or hits someone again, you need to act immediately. Since he is still small and it is impossible to send him out of the room alone, his mother must leave the group with him. During the timeout, although she is nearby, she does not pay much attention to him. If he cries, you can tell: «If you calm down, we can come in again.» Thus, she emphasizes the positive. If the crying doesn’t stop, they both go home.
There is also a time out: Patrick was taken away from the children and heaps of interesting toys.
As soon as the child plays peacefully for a while, the mother sits down to him, praises and gives her attention. Thus focusing on the good.