“Ịhụnanya Adịkwaghị Ebe A Ọzọ”: Otu esi agbake n’ịgba alụkwaghịm

1. Wepụta oge maka ahụmahụ

Taking time for yourself is an important part of the process of adapting to free-floating. Even if you have children, taking care of them is no excuse for not having enough resources for yourself. “What looks like inactivity on the outside is actually an important inner work of self-healing,” says Natalya Artsybasheva, a Gestalt therapist. – It’s pointless to push yourself. It is important to peer into yourself, notice your needs and successes: “Oh, today I didn’t cry for the first time!” So you definitely will not miss the moment when sad experiences are replaced by new energy and a desire to live.

Ọ bụrụ na ị na-enwe mwute ugbu a, i kwesịrị inwe oge ịnakwere na hazie ihe na-eme. Gaa ije na ogige ahụ, nọrọ n'oche oche na mgbede na iko tii, naanị gị na echiche gị, dee n'akwụkwọ edetu. Ọ dị mkpa ka ị ghara izobe, kama ibi ndụ steeti gị. Ma n'otu oge ahụ, ọ dị mkpa iji akara ókèala nke usoro a: M na-enye onwe m oge a maka ahụmahụ ma laghachi na ihe omume m na-emebu. Ma echi, m ga-enye mmetụta m ọzọ oge na nlebara anya ha kwesịrị ekwesị. "

2. Na-aga n'ihu

Ọ baghị uru ịgbalị ichefu ndụ gị na onye gị na ya nwere mmekọrịta chiri anya. Mgbalị ihichapụ ihe gara aga na ebe nchekwa na imebi ya ga-eme ka ọ pụta ìhè na ọ ga-eme ka ị dọọrọ gị n'agha. Ọ na-ewe oge iji gafere ọkwa niile nke iru uju. N'otu oge ahụ, ọ dị mkpa ka ị ghara ịmalite ibi na ebe nchekwa nke oge gara aga. Kedu ka esi aghọta ihe merenụ?

“In this case, the experience of loss becomes a “lifestyle” and begins to lead away from reality,” explains Natalya Artsybasheva. – For example, if the divorce happened a long time ago, and you still wear a wedding ring, keep the things of the former and try not to tell anyone about the breakup. Or if anger at your spouse goes beyond reasonable limits: you begin to actively hate all men, readily join discussions on this topic in social networks, find a company of like-minded people, and so on.

Mmetụta obi amamikpe nwere ike ime ka a na-elekọta ụmụaka gabiga ókè iji “kwụghachi ụgwọ” maka mmerụ ahụ ebubo ịgba alụkwaghịm kpatara. Oke iwe nwere ike ime ka ị bụrụ onye na-arịa ọrịa na-adịru mgbe ebighị ebi ma na-eme mkpesa, na-achụso onye bụbu onye gị na ya na-emenye ụjọ.

3. Echefula banyere mmega ahụ

“The process of divorce and separation is often accompanied by emotional depression – we intuitively want to save energy. Nevertheless, it is important right now to include physical activity in your daily routine in order to help you take a sober look at what is happening, make informed decisions and, no matter how hard it is, begin to see the positive aspects of life again, says psychologist Alex Riddle. – It’s not about intense training or long-hour marathons, especially if you didn’t like sports before. Set yourself challenging tasks that bring you pleasure.

Ọbụna ọkara awa nke mgbatị ahụ kwa ụbọchị ga-enwe mmetụta bara uru na ọnọdụ uche gị. Ọ nwere ike ịga ije tupu ịlakpuo ụra, ịgba egwu, yoga. Ihe bụ isi bụ na klaasị na-emekarị ma na-ewetara gị ọṅụ.

4. Dozie ihe n'usoro n'ihe gbasara ego

Ọ bụrụ na gị na onye gị na ya na-emekọ ihe na-emebu ọnụ ma na-akparịta ụka banyere nnukwu mmefu, ihe ọhụrụ a na-eme ná ndụ ego pụrụ ịdị na-akụda mmụọ. Alex Riddle na-adọ aka ná ntị, sị: “Ọ bụrụ na onye òtù ọlụlụ gị na-enwetakwu ego, ọ ga-abụrịrị na ị ga-eche eziokwu ahụ bụ na nchekwa ihe onwunwe gị ga-ama jijiji. Ruo mgbe ị nwere ike iru otu ọkwa nke ego n'onwe gị, ịkwesịrị ịgbanwe àgwà gị na ụzọ ndụ gị. Ịgba alụkwaghịm ekwesịghị ịbụ ihe mere ị ga-eji na-agbazinye ego, ma ọ bụghị ya, ị nwere ike ịmalite ịdabere na ego. "

5. Tinye aka na nzikọrịta ozi

Onye ị hụrụ n'anya nwụnahụrụ gị, ị ga-emerịrị ya. Natalya Artsybasheva kwetara, sị: "Ee, ọ dị mkpa inye onwe gị oge iji nọrọ naanị gị na mmetụta gị. "Ma anyị bụ ndị na-elekọta mmadụ, ịnọpụ iche dịkwa njọ nye anyị. O nwere ike ịbụ n'oge ịmalite mmekọrịta chiri anya ọhụrụ, mana ị nwere ike nweta mmetụta nke "mkpọ gị" na njem, na klas ịgba egwu, na ọrụ afọ ofufo, na n'ọtụtụ ebe ndị ọzọ. Isi ihe abụghị ikewapụ onwe ya, kama iji nọgide na-enwe nguzozi dị mma. "