Kedu ihe na-ebute mwakpo ụjọ mberede? Olee ebe egwu na-enweghị ezi uche si abịa? Mgbe ụfọdụ, ọgba aghara mmadụ na oke oke na-egosipụta onwe ya n'ụzọ dị otu a. Ọ dabara nke ọma, enwere ike ịgwọ ya. Isi ihe bụ ịmata mgbaàmà n'oge.
Elena nwetara oké ụjọ ọgụ. Mwakpo a were nkeji ole na ole ruo ọkara awa. Ha bilitere na-atụghị anya ya na enweghị nzizi kpamkpam. Nke a gbochiri ya ibi ndụ zuru oke, ịrụ ọrụ na ịkparịta ụka. Ihere onwe ya mere ya. Elena na-enwekarị enyi, ọ malitere ịgba ndị mmadụ ọsọ ma gbahapụ ihe ndị ọ na-emebu.
Mwakpo ụjọ malitere n'oge uto. Ka ọ na-erule afọ 30, Elena enweghị ike ijide ọrụ ọ bụla karịa ọnwa ole na ole, alụmdi na nwunye ahụ dị nso na ọdịda, ọ fọrọ nke nta ka ọ bụrụ ndị enyi ọ bụla fọdụrụ.
Ndị dọkịta chọpụtara na ọ na-arịa ọrịa n'ókè. Elena eyighị ka onye ọrịa nwere ọrịa a ma ọlị. O nwere ụdị ọrịa ahụ a na-adịghị ahụ anya.
Nke a bụ akara ngosi ole na ole nke nsogbu oke oke n'ụdị ya zoro ezo:
1. Ọchịchọ ịnọgide na-enwe mmekọrịta na ụgwọ niile. Elena agaghị ahapụ di ya ma ọlị, n'agbanyeghị nsogbu ndị dị n'alụmdi na nwunye. Site n'oge ọ bụ nwata, ọ dị ya ka ndị mụrụ ya gbahapụrụ ya, n'oge ọ bụ nwata, ọ hụrụ nwoke ahụ ọ lụrụ n'anya n'anya.
2. Mmekọrịta na-adịghị akwụsi ike na nke mmetụta uche n'ime ezinụlọ. E gosipụtara nke a n'ụzọ bụ isi na mmekọrịta ya na nne. Ọ kparịrị Elena ma weda ya ala. Nwa nwanyị ahụ kwụsịrị iso nne ya na-ekwurịta okwu mgbe SMS ọzọ na mkparị, na izu abụọ ka e mesịrị, dị ka a ga-asị na ọ dịghị ihe merenụ, ọ gara ịzụ ahịa na ya. Elena kwụsịrị iwe na iwe.
3. Echiche gbagọrọ agbagọ banyere onwe gị. Mgbe Elena dị obere, nne ya zigara ya ugboro ugboro ka ọ soro na asọmpi ịma mma. Ihe omume ndị dị otú ahụ na-emepụta echiche na-adịghị mma banyere ahụ nke mmadụ. Elena kpebiri na ọ bụrụ na ọ mara mma n'ọdịdị ya, na ya agaghị enwe mmetụta mmetụta uche na mmetụta ya. N’ihi nke a, o gbochiri iwe, iru uju, ihere, obi amamikpe, na mwute ruo ọtụtụ afọ.
4. Impulsivity na onwe-ebibi. Elena did not deny that she was abusing alcohol and drugs. She was prone to uncontrolled spending, self-harm, overeating. Bad habits followed each other. If she managed to stop abusing psychotropic drugs, she immediately began to spend money uncontrollably. Having overcome the habit of combing her skin, she began to «seize» stress. Methods of self-harm constantly changed.
5. Mgbalị igbu onwe mgbe niile. Na nlele mbụ, Elena enweghị ebumnuche igbu onwe ya, ọ gọnarịrị echiche ndị dị otú ahụ. Otú ọ dị, ọ ṅụbigara ọgwụ ókè. Ọchịchọ ọ na-adịte aka imerụ onwe ya na omume dị ize ndụ siri nnọọ ike nke na a pụkwara ịkpọ omume dị otú ahụ mgbalị igbu onwe onye zoro ezo.
6. Nchegbu siri ike, ịda mbà n'obi ma ọ bụ mgbakasị ahụ. As a child, Elena was taught that unpleasant emotions — anxiety, irritation, anxiety — should be ashamed. Since she was not allowed to show such feelings openly, she hid them. As a result, panic attacks arose, and in adulthood, digestive problems were added.
7. Mmetụta mgbe nile nke ihe efu n'ime. Ọbụna mgbe ihe na-agaziri Elena, o nweghị afọ ojuju. Ọ malitere imebi ọnọdụ nke ndị ọzọ, na-agbalị n'amaghị ama iji gosipụta mmetụta nke enweghị isi. Otú ọ dị, nke a zutere di ya na ndị ikwu ndị ọzọ nke ukwuu nke na ọ họọrọ nanị izochiri onye ọ bụla mmetụta ya.
8. Iwe iwe. Elena kwuru na ọ fọrọ nke nta ka ọ bụrụ na ya anaghị ewe iwe. N’ezie, a kụziiri ya site n’oge ọ bụ nwata na e kwesịghị igosipụta iwe. Iwe na-akpakọba ọnụ kemgbe ọtụtụ afọ, mgbe ụfọdụkwa, a na-enwe iwe na-atụghị anya ya. Mgbe ihere mechara ya, ọ malitekwara imerụ onwe ya ahụ́, iribiga ihe ókè ma ọ bụ ịṅụbiga mmanya ókè.
9. Echiche na-adịghị mma. The process of examination by the doctor caused Elena such horror that she dropped everything several times and then started again. She had thoughts bordering on paranoia. She was afraid of the reaction of relatives, the condemnation of others. And most of all — that everyone will leave her.
10. Mgbaàmà nke dissociation. Mgbe ụfọdụ Elena yiri ka ọ "na-ada n'eziokwu", ọ dị ya ka ọ na-ele onwe ya anya n'akụkụ. Ọtụtụ mgbe, nke a mere ozugbo tupu mwakpo ụjọ na ozugbo ọ gasịrị. Tupu ịgakwuru dọkịta, Elena agwaghị onye ọ bụla banyere nke a, ọ na-atụ egwu na a ga-ewere ya dị ka onye na-adịghị mma.
A ga-agwọta ma nsogbu agwa mmadụ nke ezoro ezo na nke zoro ezo. Psychotherapy na-enyere ọtụtụ ndị ọrịa aka: ọgwụgwọ omume dialectical, schema therapy, mmụta uche. Mgbe Elena matara ihe na-eme ya n'ezie, ụjọ ahụ kwụsịrị, ka oge na-agakwa, ọgwụgwọ akparamaagwa nyeere ya aka ịmụta iji nagide ahụmịhe mmetụta uche nke ọma.
Banyere onye edemede: Kristin Hammond bụ ọkà n'akparamàgwà mmadụ na-enye ndụmọdụ.