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You may have noticed that sometimes you are full of energy and strength, although you have been working on an interesting project all night, and sometimes you go to bed no later than usual, but wake up in the morning completely empty. We talk about the unconscious causes of fatigue and how to find a source of cheerfulness in yourself.
Life in a metropolis, social networks, information flows, communication with others, everyday worries and responsibilities are sources not only of our opportunities and joys, but also of stress and fatigue. In the daily hustle and bustle, we often forget about ourselves and catch ourselves only when the body gives clear signals. One of them is chronic fatigue syndrome.
Consultations are often attended by clients who, at first glance, have everything in order in life: a decent education, a prestigious job, an arranged personal life, friends and travel opportunities. But there is no energy for all this. The feeling that in the morning they wake up already tired, and in the evening the forces remain only for watching the series at dinner and going to bed.
What is the reason for such a state of the body? Of course, one should not underestimate the lifestyle that a person leads. Also, many associate this condition with a long absence of the sun. But there are several psychological reasons that cause fatigue.
1. Suppression of your emotions and desires
Imagine that after a day at work, a colleague or boss asked you to stay and help with an upcoming event, and you had plans for the evening. For some reason, you could not refuse, you got angry at yourself and at those who ended up in this situation. Since you are not used to talking about what does not suit you, you simply suppressed your anger and acted as a “good helper” and “worthy employee”. However, in the evening or in the morning you feel overwhelmed.
Many of us are used to suppressing our emotions. They got angry at the partner for the unfulfilled request, kept silent — and the suppressed emotion went into the treasury of the psyche. Offended by a friend for being late, they decided not to voice dissatisfaction — also in the piggy bank.
In fact, emotions are an excellent sensor of what is happening, if you can correctly recognize them and see the reason for what caused them.
Emotions that we did not give vent to, did not experience, suppressed in ourselves, go into the body and with all their weight fall on us. We just feel this heaviness in the body as chronic fatigue syndrome.
With desires that we do not allow ourselves, the same thing happens. In the psyche, as in a vessel, tension and dissatisfaction accumulate. Mental stress is no less severe than physical. Therefore, the psyche tells us that she is tired and it is time for her to unload.
2. The desire to meet the expectations of others
Each of us lives in society, and therefore is constantly influenced by the opinions and assessments of others. Of course, it is very nice when they admire us and approve of us. However, when we embark on the path of meeting someone else’s expectations (parents, partner, spouse, or friends), we become tense.
Hidden in this tension is the fear of failure, the suppression of one’s own needs for the sake of the desires of others, and anxiety. The joy and vigor that praise gives us in case of success turn out to be not as long as a period of tension, and are replaced by a new expectation. Excessive stress is always looking for a way out, and chronic fatigue is one of the safe options.
3. Toxic environment
It also happens that we follow our desires and goals, we realize ourselves. However, in our environment there are people who devalue our achievements. Instead of support, we receive unconstructive criticism, and they react to each of our ideas with “conditional realism”, doubting that we can achieve our plans. Such people are toxic to us, and, unfortunately, among them may be our loved ones — parents, friends or partner.
Dealing with a toxic person takes a huge amount of resources.
Explaining and defending our ideas, we not only get tired, but also lose faith in ourselves. It would seem, who, if not close, can “objectively” advise something?
Of course, it is worth talking with a person, finding out the reason for his sharp reactions and words and asking him to express his opinion more constructively, to support you. It is quite possible that he does this unconsciously, because he himself was communicated this way before and he developed an appropriate behavior model. For a long time, he has become so accustomed to her that he no longer notices his reactions.
However, if the interlocutor is not ready to compromise and does not see a problem, we are faced with a choice: minimize communication or continue to expend energy defending our interests.
Kedu ka esi enyere onwe gị aka?
Live emotions, be ready to experience any of them. Learn to communicate your feelings to others in an environmentally friendly way and refuse requests if necessary. Learn to talk about your desires and about what is unacceptable for you.
Any path that takes you away from yourself brings tension, and the body immediately signals this. Otherwise, how will you understand that what you are doing is destructive for you?
The other person’s expectations are his responsibility. Let him deal with them on his own. Don’t put the key to your peace of mind into the hands of those whose expectations you seek to live up to. Do what you can and give yourself permission to make mistakes.
It is not difficult to discover the source of cheerfulness in yourself. To do this, it is necessary to find and minimize the causes of energy loss.
Start to be more attentive to yourself and analyze, after which you have a state of emptiness. Maybe you haven’t slept in a week? Or do you not hear yourself so much that the body has not found another way to draw your attention to itself?
Mental and physical states depend on each other, as elements of one whole — our body. As soon as we begin to notice and change what does not suit us, the body immediately reacts: our mood improves and there is more energy for new achievements.