Ihe nzuzo 15 nke Asụsụ Ahụ: Ihe Ndị Na-eme nke Ọma Na-adịghị eme

Body language speaks for us before we have time to process our words. And it is more difficult to control it than our speech — is that why they believe it more than what they hear? For example, you are slightly slouched or slouched in a meeting… This reads as a sign of insecurity or that you are bored. Sometimes it is.

Ma mgbe ụfọdụ, ndị ọzọ na-aghọta mmegharị anyị n'ụzọ dị iche karịa ka anyị nwere ike iche.

Lelee ndị nwere ihe ịga nke ọma na-ekwupụta ntụkwasị obi ha na njikwa ọnọdụ ha na mmegharị okwu na nke anụ ahụ. Lezienụ anya na ihe ị na-agaghị eme…

1. Nọdụ ala. You will never tell your boss, «I don’t see why I should listen to you,» but if you change your body position and sit hunched over, your body will say it for you, and very clearly. This is a sign of disrespect. When you slouch and don’t keep your posture, it shows that you are not interested and do not want to be here.

A na-eji ụbụrụ anyị agụ ozi site n'ọnọdụ ọnọdụ ya na oke ohere nke onye guzo n'akụkụ anyị nwere.

Power pose — when you stand up straight with your shoulders back, keeping your head straight. Whereas, by slouching, you crumple your shape, strive to take up less space and thus show that you have less power. Therefore, there is a very good reason to maintain an even posture throughout the entire conversation: this is how we also maintain attention to the interlocutor, show our respect and interest in him.

2. Gesticulate na ikwubiga okwu ókè. Often, when people want to hide something or divert attention, they gesticulate heavily. Watch yourself when you do not want to give a direct answer — you will also notice body movements that are unusual for you.

Gbalịa mee ka mmegharị ahụ dị ntakịrị na nkenke, nke a na-egosi na ị na-achịkwa ọnọdụ ahụ na okwu gị. Mmegharị ahụ dị otú ahụ bụ ihe a na-ahụkarị maka ọtụtụ ndị nwere ihe ịga nke ọma bụ ndị nwere obi ike ma lekwasị anya na azụmahịa. A ga-emeghekwa mmegharị ahụ.

3. Lee elekere gị anya. Emela nke a mgbe ị na-agwa mmadụ okwu, ọ na-agụ dị ka enweghị nkwanye ùgwù na enweghị ndidi. Ngosipụta a dị ka ihe a na-apụghị ịghọta aghọta bụ ihe a na-ahụkarị mgbe niile. Ma ọ bụrụgodi na ị na-ejizi oge na-enwe mmasị n'ezie ịge onye na-emekọrịta ihe, site na mmegharị ahụ ị ga-enye ya echiche na ike gwụrụ gị n'oge mkparịta ụka ahụ.

4. Gbanahụ onye ọ bụla. Ngosipụta a na-ekwu ọ bụghị naanị na ị naghị etinye aka na ihe na-eme. A ka na-agụ ya n'ọkwa dị ala dị ka ihe ịrịba ama nke enweghị ntụkwasị obi nke ọkà okwu. Otu ihe ahụ na-eme ma ọ bụrụ na ịgakwuru onye na-agwa gị okwu mgbe a na-akparịta ụka ma ọ bụ lepụ anya.

Gbalịa ịchịkwa ọ bụghị naanị mmegharị ahụ, kamakwa mmegharị ahụ, ka ị ghara iziga n'ụzọ doro anya mgbaàmà ọjọọ n'oge nzukọ ọrụ ma ọ bụ mkparita uka dị mkpa.

5. Gbanye aka na ụkwụ gị. Ọ bụrụgodị na ị na-amụmụ ọnụ ọchị n'otu oge ma na-enwe mkparịta ụka dị ụtọ, onye ahụ ka ga-enwe mmetụta na-edoghị anya na ị na-akwapụ ya. Nke a bụ ezigbo asụsụ nke ọtụtụ ndị dere maka ya. Nke a bụ otú ị ga-esi emepụta ihe mgbochi anụ ahụ n'etiti onwe gị na ọkà okwu n'ihi na ị naghị emeghe ihe ọ na-ekwu.

Iguzo na ogwe aka gị dị mma, ma ị ga-alụso àgwà a ọgụ ma ọ bụrụ na ịchọghị ka a hụ gị dị ka (na-ezighị ezi!) Ụdị nzuzo.

6. Na-emegide okwu gị na ọdịdị ihu ma ọ bụ mmegharị ahụ. Dịka ọmụmaatụ, ịmụmụ ọnụ ọchị manyere n'oge mkparịta ụka mgbe ị sịrị mba. Ikekwe nke a bụ otú ị ga-esi mee ka ọjụjụ ahụ dị nro, ma ọ ka mma ma ọ bụrụ na okwu ndị dị n'ihu gị kwekọrọ n'otú ọ dị gị. Onye na-emekọrịta ihe na-atụle site na ọnọdụ a naanị na ihe adịghị mma ebe a, ihe anaghị ejikọta na, ikekwe, ị na-ezobe ya ihe ma ọ bụ na-achọ ịghọgbu.

7. Na-ekwe n'ike. Ọtụtụ ndị mmadụ na-adụ ọdụ ka ha na-agbọ isi n'oge ruo n'oge iji nọgide na-enwe kọntaktị. Otú ọ dị, ọ bụrụ na i kweta n'okwu ya nke ọ bụla, ọ ga-adị onye na-emekọrịta ihe na ị kwenyere n'ihe ị na-aghọtachaghị nke ọma, ma na-achọsi ike ihu ya.

8. Dezie ntutu gị. Nke a bụ mmegharị ahụ ụjọ, na-egosi na ị na-elekwasị anya n'ọdịdị gị karịa n'ihe na-eme. Nke, n'ozuzu, adịghị anya na eziokwu.

9. Zenarị ịhụ anya ozugbo. Ọ bụ ezie na anyị niile na-aghọta na ọ ga-ekwe omume na-etinye aka n'ụzọ zuru ezu na ihe na-eme na-ege ntị nke ọma, na-enweghị ele anya elu, mgbaàmà nke ahụ na otú ụbụrụ na-agụ ha, arụmụka nke uche na-emeri ebe a. A ga-aghọta nke a dị ka ihe nzuzo, ihe ị na-edobe azụ, ma kpalie enyo na nzaghachi.

Ọ dị mkpa karịsịa ịnọgide na-ahụ anya n'oge mgbe ị na-eme nkwupụta dị mkpa ma ọ bụ na-ekwurịta ozi dị mgbagwoju anya. Ndị nwere àgwà a kwesịrị ichetara onwe ha ka ha ghara ile anya n'ala, gburugburu, n'ihi na nke a ga-enwe mmetụta na-adịghị mma.

10. Oke ile anya. N'adịghị ka nke gara aga, a na-ahụta oke anya dị ka mkpasu iwe na mbọ ịchịisi. Na nkezi, ndị America na-edobe anya maka sekọnd 7, ogologo oge mgbe ha na-ege ntị, obere mgbe ha na-ekwu okwu.

It is also important how you look away. If you lower your eyes down, this is perceived as submission, to the side — confidence and trust.

11. Tụgharịa anya gị. Ụfọdụ nwere àgwà a, yana otu n'ime ndị ọrụ ibe ha na-elegharị anya nke ọma. Ọ dabara nke ọma maka anyị, omume ndị a maara nke ọma dị mfe ịchịkwa ma baa uru.

12. Ịnọ ọdụ nhụsianya. It is more difficult here — we cannot always control and even imagine how we look from the outside. The problem is that if we are immersed in our sad thoughts through no fault of those around us, they will still perceive that you are upset because of them.

The way out is to remember this when you are surrounded by people. Take into account the fact that if you approach a colleague with some kind of work question and at the same time your face looks sad and preoccupied, his first reaction will not be to your words, but to the expression on your face: “What are you unhappy about this once?» A simple smile, no matter how trite it may sound, is read by the brain positively and leaves a lasting favorable impression of you.

13. Bịaruo onye na-ekwu okwu nso. Ọ bụrụ na ị kwụ nso karịa otu ụkwụ na ọkara, a na-ahụta nke a dị ka mbuso agha nke oghere nkeonwe ma na-egosi enweghị nkwanye ùgwù. Na oge ọzọ, onye a ga-enwe ahụ iru ala n'ihu gị.

14. Fanye aka gị. Nke a bụ ihe ịrịba ama na ị na-atụ ụjọ ma ọ bụ na-agbachitere ma ọ bụ na-achọ ịrụ ụka. N'ịgwa gị okwu, ndị mmadụ na-azaghachi ga-enwekwa ahụ ụjọ.

15. Aka aka adịghị ike. Too strong a handshake indicates a desire to dominate, too weak — a lack of self-confidence. Both are not very good. What should be your handshake? Always different depending on the person and the situation, but always firm and warm.

Banyere Ọkachamara: Travis Bradbury bụ onye na-ede akwụkwọ nke Emotional Intelligence 2.0, nke a sụgharịrị n'asụsụ 23; ngalaba-nchoputa nke TalentSmart consulting center, onye ahịa gụnyere atọ n'ụzọ anọ nke Fortune 500 ụlọ ọrụ.