Ghosting, benching, breadcrumbing, mooning… Ndị a niile neologisms kọwaa style nke nkwurịta okwu na mkpakọrịta nwoke na nwaanyị na saịtị na flirting ngwa taa, na ha niile na-akọwa dị iche iche ụdị nke jụrụ. N'ọnọdụ ụfọdụ, ụzọ mmụọ ndị a nwere ike imebi ùgwù onwe gị. Xenia Dyakova-Tinoku na-agbalị ịchọta otú ị ga-esi amata ha na ihe ị ga-eme ma ọ bụrụ na ị ghọọ onye "nwoke mmụọ".
The phenomenon of ghosting itself (from the English ghost — a ghost) is not new. We all know the expressions «leave in English» and «send to ignore.» But earlier, in the “pre-virtual era”, it was more difficult to do this, the reputation of a fugitive among mutual friends and colleagues was at stake. You could meet with him and demand an explanation.
Na oghere dị n'ịntanetị, enweghị njikwa mmekọrịta dị otú ahụ, ọ dịkwa mfe imebi njikọ ahụ n'enweghị nsonaazụ a na-ahụ anya.
Kedu ka ọ si eme
Ị na-ezute na ịntanetị na onye nwere mmasị n'ụzọ doro anya na nkwurịta okwu. Ọ na-enye ekele, ị nwere ọtụtụ isiokwu ndị a na-ahụkarị maka mkparịta ụka, ikekwe ị zutere "na ndụ n'ezie" ihe karịrị otu ugboro ma ọ bụ ọbụna nwee mmekọahụ. Mana otu ụbọchị ọ kwụsịrị ịkparịta ụka, ọ naghị aza oku, ozi na akwụkwọ ozi gị. N'otu oge ahụ, ị nwere ike ịchọpụta na ọ gụrụ ha ma gbachie nkịtị.
Ndị mmadụ na-apụ na radar n'ihi na ha achọghị inwe ahụ erughị ala nke mmetụta uche nke ikewa gị.
Ị malitere ịma jijiji: ị gaghị enweta azịza? Naanị izu gara aga, ị gara na ihe nkiri ma kekọrịta ihe ncheta nwata. Mana ugbu a ọ dị gị ka etinyere gị n'akwụkwọ ojii. Gịnị kpatara? Maka gịnị? Kedu ihe ị mere? Ọ malitere nke ọma…
“People disappear from your radar for one reason: they don’t want to feel emotional discomfort explaining why your relationship is no longer relevant,” explains psychotherapist Janice Wilhauer. — You live in a big city. The probability of a chance meeting is minimal, and the “ghost man” is only too happy about this. Moreover, the more often he interrupts communication in this way, the easier it is for him to play «silent».
Ụzọ aghụghọ na-eme ihe ike na-akụda mmụọ. Ọ na-emepụta echiche nke ejighị n'aka na mgbagwoju anya. Ọ dị gị ka a na-akparị gị, a jụrụ gị, mana ị maghị nke a kpamkpam. Ekwesịrị m inwe nchegbu? Gịnị ma ọ bụrụ na ihe mere enyi gị ma ọ bụ na ọ na-arụsi ọrụ ike ma nwee ike ịkpọ n'oge ọ bụla?
Janice Wilhauer na-arụ ụka na ịjụ mmadụ na-eme ka otu ebe mgbu dị na ụbụrụ dị ka mgbu anụ ahụ. Ya mere, n'ime oge siri ike, ihe mgbu dị mfe nke dabeere na paracetamol nwere ike inye aka. Ma na mgbakwunye na njikọ nke ndu a n'etiti ịjụ na mgbu, ọ na-ahụ ọtụtụ ihe ndị ọzọ na-eme ka ahụ erughị ala anyị dịkwuo elu.
Mmekọrịta mgbe niile na ndị ọzọ dị mkpa maka nlanarị, usoro evolushọn a emebela kemgbe ọtụtụ puku afọ. Usoro mmekọrịta ọha na eze na-enyere anyị aka ime mgbanwe n'ọnọdụ dị iche iche. Otú ọ dị, ghosting na-anapụ anyị ụkpụrụ nduzi: ọ dịghị ụzọ anyị ga-esi kwupụta mmetụta anyị nye onye mejọrọ anyị. Mgbe ụfọdụ, o nwere ike ịdị anyị ka ọ̀ na-achịzi ndụ anyị.
Otu esi emeso ya
Iji malite, Jennis Wilhauer na-adụ ọdụ ka ị were ya n'efu na nnabata nke ọma aghọwo ụzọ ọha mmadụ na-anabata nke na-ekwurịta okwu n'enweghị nkwurịta okwu. Ịghọta na ị na-eche ihu ghosting na-enyere aka wepụ ibu nchegbu na mkpụrụ obi. "Ọ dị mkpa ịghọta na eziokwu ahụ na-eleghara gị anya adịghị ekwu ihe ọ bụla gbasara gị na àgwà gị. Nke a bụ naanị ihe na-egosi na enyi gị adịbeghị njikere na enweghị ike inwe mmekọrịta dị mma na nke tozuru okè, "Jennis Wilhauer na-ekwusi ike.
The «Ghost» is afraid to face his own and your emotions, is deprived of empathy, or deliberately disappeared for a while in order to attract attention in the best traditions of pick-up. So is this coward and manipulator worth your tears?