Isolation with your loved one — what could be more pleasant? It’s time to get to know each other better. How to diversify sexual leisure in quarantine, keep desire and observe safety precautions in bed, without neglecting the rules of self-isolation?
Maka inwe mmekọahụ na mkpali, ihe gbara ya gburugburu dị oke mkpa: ihe na-eme gị ugbu a. “Ọ bụrụ na ị kechie akpụkpọ ụkwụ nwa gị ma onye gị na ya na-ama gị ụra, ọ na-ewe gị iwe. Ọ bụrụkwa na ọ mara gị ahụ́ mgbe ị na-eme ịhụnanya, ị na-ewere ya dị ka ihe na-akpali agụụ mmekọahụ,” ka Emily Nagoski dere n’akwụkwọ bụ́ How a Woman Wants.
A na-ahụtakarị ekwekọghị n'etiti ọnọdụ na steeti. Dịka ọmụmaatụ, ọ bụrụ na ị na-abịa oriri ụmụaka ma hụ nwanyị na-eyi uwe n'ezoghị ọnụ, na-egbuke egbuke ma na-akpakọrịta na ndị nna, ị nwere ike iwe iwe n'ihi na ihe ndị gbara ya gburugburu (ezumike ụmụaka) na ụdị omume, ọnọdụ nke otu onye anaghị adaba. .
Forced isolation certainly affects the context, and our sexual relationships can suffer from it. If earlier we «lived» several different lives in one day — a parent, spouse, employee, lover — now we are constantly in the same situation.
It is very difficult, spending the whole day in leggings and with a bun on your head, to become a passionate tigress by the evening! How do we «turn on» the inner Monica Bellucci?
Na-eme ihe na ọnọdụ
"Iji gbanwee n'etiti steeti nke ọma, ọ dị mkpa icheta ihe gbara ya gburugburu. Zụlite onwe gị ka ị gbanwee ụdịdị: "Abụ m nne na nna", "Abụ m onye hụrụ n'anya", "Abụ m di na nwunye", "Abụ m onye ndu", "Abụ m onye ọrụ," ọkà mmụta mmekọahụ Maria Shelkova kwuru.
N'ọnọdụ ndị dị ugbu a, ọ dịghị mfe, ma ọ bara uru ịnwale. Ọ nwere ike were mgbalị ụfọdụ, mana iji mee ka ọ dịkwuo mfe, soro ndụmọdụ ndị na-enye aka. A sị ka e kwuwe, ihe ndị gbara ya gburugburu abụghị nanị ọnọdụ kpọmkwem, kamakwa gburugburu gburugburu gị.
“Break up your home space into zones where one thing is allowed, but another is prohibited. For example, you can have serious or everyday conversations with your husband in the kitchen or in the office area, but in no case should you transfer them to bed. If you follow this rule, the marital bed will become for you a zone of relaxation and enjoyment. And this will help to consolidate the role of a mistress — when you are in the bedroom, ”says the expert.
Nchekwa ime ụlọ
Iwu nke igbochi afọ ime ka dị ka ọ dị na mbụ, mana a ga-agbasorịrị ya nke ọma karịa, Maria Shelkova kwenyere.
"N'ịbụ onye nwụsịrị ọrịa ụfọdụ na-adịghị mma, ị ga-akụ ihe mgbochi ozugbo. Ma ọ bụrụ na mberede n'oge ịpụpụ iche, ị zutere onye ọlụlụ ọhụrụ (dịka ọmụmaatụ, na ịntanetị ma ọ bụ ngwa ịntanetị), rịọ ya ka o mee nnwale coronavirus. Nke a bụ ihe nkịtị, ị ga-adị jụụ otu a, "ọkachamara ahụ dọrọ aka ná ntị.
Na ịdị jụụ na obi ike ga-enyere gị aka zuru ike ma nwee ntụrụndụ.
Elegharala iwu nchekwa anya ọbụlagodi na ịchọtala ọkara nke ọzọ gị ogologo oge. Ọ nwere ike ịdị ka ihe na-atọ ọchị, mana cheta: WHO na-atụ aro ihicha mmiri ugboro ugboro na ịgbasa ụlọ ahụ.
“Chee echiche banyere iji oriọna quartz na-ekpochapụ ụlọ ahụ,” ka ọkà n'akparamàgwà mmadụ na-adụ ọdụ. Nke a agaghị egbu ịhụnanya, n'adịghị ka nje na nje bacteria na-emerụ ahụ. Tụkwasị na nke ahụ, di nke na-ekpori ahịhịa pụrụ ịkpọte ọtụtụ ọchịchọ ọhụrụ n'ime gị.
Oge ịnwale ihe ọhụrụ
Ka anyị kwuo na gị na onye òtù ọlụlụ gị na-etinyekwa uche n'echiche nke ịme ezumike mmanye n'àkwà. Ma ugbu a bụ oge ịnwale ihe ị na-atụghị anya ime na mbụ. Maria Shelkova ji n'aka: taa ị nwere ike imeli ihe niile, nke ọma, ma ọ bụ ihe fọrọ nke nta ka ọ bụrụ ihe niile. Isi ihe bụ ịdebe ihe nchekwa nchekwa ma kwenye na ihe enyere ikike n'ikpere mmiri.
Maria Shelkova na-enye ọtụtụ mbanye anataghị ikike ndụ maka ndị chọrọ ịlanarị ikewapụ na ntakiri:
- Now the virtual reality industry is actively developing. You can order a VR helmet at home and use it to explore «adult» content, living an experience that you would not have dared in real life. In virtual reality, this is possible, no one will judge — it’s just a game, and for many it will be a bright emotional discovery. You can order two helmets and have fun with a partner.
- You can try role playing. The entire wardrobe is at your disposal — change the looks at your pleasure.
- Nye iwu ụlọ ahịa mmekọahụ n'ịntanetị nke dọtara uche gị ogologo oge. A na-enwekarị nkọwa na ndụmọdụ maka ndị mbido. Enwere ike iji ha dị iche iche, yana maka mkpali ọzọ n'oge mmekọahụ na onye òtù ọlụlụ.
- Ahụmahụ mmekọahụ nke kpuchiri ekpuchi anya ga-eme ka mmetụta dị nro pụta ìhè: ha ga-egbuke egbuke ọtụtụ ugboro.
- Finally, for the sake of interest, you can try light practices from the BDSM culture. The most important thing is to remember safety. No hard blows: avoid places where the bone is close to the skin; you can spank only where there are large muscles. No tight binding — only wide belts and ribbons. To practice it seriously, you need to undergo special training. Taking care of your partner and following the rules in BDSM is the most important thing.
Achọghị m ihe ọ bụla!
It may also happen that we responsibly approached isolation: we tuned in to the positive, bought toys and contraceptives — but there is no desire … We gnaw at ourselves: is a forced vacation going down the drain? Having fallen into a panic, trying to do everything “correctly” (after all, it’s a great chance, we’re not in a hurry anyway), we start to bother our partner or ourselves.
“We bought toys — let them lie! The dollar has grown, so the purchase is profitable, let it warm the soul. But forcing ourselves to have sex is the most harmful thing we can do for libido. There should be no violence against yourself and others in an intimate way! Yes, sometimes the appetite comes with eating, but it’s definitely not about fighting with yourself and imposing your desires on loved ones, ”says the expert.
Kedu ihe anyị kwesịrị ime ma ọ bụrụ na ugbu a, mgbe, ọ ga-adị ka oge maka marathon ịhụnanya, anyị anaghị adị ka agụụ mmekọahụ ndị Africa ma ọlị?
"N'ọnọdụ nrụgide, nlekọta na mmetụta nke nchebe dị mkpa. Enwere ọtụtụ ụzọ isi lekọta onwe gị na ndị ọzọ na-enweghị coitus,” Maria Shelkova na-echeta.
We can simply stroke our loved one, scratch behind his ear, cuddle under a blanket, picking up our favorite books. Dance to «the same lingerie.» And whether penetration or not, is not so important. “When we give ourselves the freedom to want sex, we must give our partner the freedom not to want sex, and vice versa. Otherwise, our own freedom is worth nothing,” Maria Shelkova is sure.