Ihe ịrịba ama 5 ị na-eji okwu mmeghe gị emejọ

Adịghị m mpako ịbụ onye introvert, mana ihere anaghị eme m. Nke a n'onwe ya adịghị mma ma ọ bụ ihe ọjọọ. Ọ bụ naanị ihe enyere. N'ikwu eziokwu, ike gwụ m ntakịrị maka ịnya isi maka ntinye m. Onye ọ bụla m maara na-ezigara m memes banyere ọmarịcha introverts na ndị na-agwụ ike na-ekwu okwu nke ukwuu.

ezuru. Ọ dị mma na anyị nabatara ọpụrụiche anyị wee gwa ụwa gbasara ịhụnanya anyị nwere ịnọ naanị ya. Ma ọ bụghị oge ịga n'ihu? Anyị na-eme ngagharị iwe nke ukwuu? Ọ bụrụ na ọ dị gị mma n'ezie, ọ dị gị mkpa ịnọgide na-eti mkpu maka ya? Ọ bụghị oge ka ị na-eche banyere azụmahịa nke gị?

N'ezie, mkpa maka ịnọ naanị ya bụ akụkụ nke ọdịdị nke introvert, ma ọ bụ naanị akụkụ. Anyị chọrọ nke a maka mgbake, mana echere m na ọ bụ oge iji chọpụta ka ị ga-esi mee ụwa obi ụtọ na uru nke ntinye gị.

Ọ bụrụ na ị na-eji ya naanị dị ka ihe ngọpụ maka ịbelata akwụkwọ ịkpọ òkù, mgbe ahụ ị na-akwado ọtụtụ echiche na introverts bụ asocial. Na nke a bụ otu n'ime ihe ịrịba ama na ị na-eji mmeghe gị eme ihe n'ụzọ na-ezighị ezi. Ka anyị jiri ya malite, mgbe ahụ, anyị ga-ekwu banyere ụfọdụ ndị ọzọ.

1. Ị na-etinye oge dị ukwuu n'ụlọ.

You don’t like parties. That’s fine, but did you know that you can learn to love them if you participate in them… in your own way? For example, when going to a party, give yourself permission to leave it at any time — even if it is still “too early”. Or sit in the corner and watch the others. Well, yes, someone will pester you with questions about why you do not communicate. So what? You don’t care, you’re fine with yourself.

Mana ka anyị kwuo na ị ka na-akpọ oriri na ọṅụṅụ. Ya mere, agala ha! Ma ọ bụrụ nnọọ na ị jụrụ òkù ịkpọ òkù ma ghara ịkpọ ndị na-amasị gị ka ha mee ihe masịrị gị n’ezie, mgbe ahụ ị bụghị onye na-eme ihe n’eziokwu, kama ọ bụ nnọọ onye na-agba ọsọ.

But then you need to socialize in your own way. You can be an introvert who himself invites interesting people to accompany him to events — for example, to lectures, exhibitions, author’s readings.

Ị na-ahazi nri ọnụ ọnụ ka ị nwee mkparịta ụka mara mma na okirikiri dị warara? Ị ga-eso enyi gị nke dịkwa mma ịgwa ya okwu wee gbachie nkịtị? Soro ndị enyi ole na ole nọ gị nso rie nri? Ọ bụrụ na ọ bụghị, mgbe ahụ ị na-eji mmeghe gị eme ihe n'ụzọ na-ezighị ezi. Gosi ndị nwere chi ọma ka ndị introverts nwere ike isi dị mma.

2. Ị na-arụ ọrụ ahụ.

Ikike nke introverts ịrụ ọrụ oge niile bụ otu n'ime ike anyị. Na-anya isi na ya. Ma ọ bụrụ na ị gwaghị ndị ọrụ ibe gị na ndị isi gị echiche gị, ị na-egosi ụwa n'ezie ịdị ukwuu nke ntinye gị?

Aghọtara m na mgbe ụfọdụ nzukọ na-aga ngwa ngwa maka usoro echiche anyị. Ọ na-esiri anyị ike ịmepụta echiche na ịchọta oge a ga-anụ. Ma ọ bụ ọrụ anyị ịmụta ka anyị na ndị ọzọ na-ekerịta echiche.

Ndị isi amalitela n'oge na-adịbeghị anya ịmụta banyere introversion na extroversion dị ka akụkụ ọzọ nke iche iche nke ga-abụrịrị na otu dị irè. Jide n'aka na ị na-egosipụta uru nke introversion na ọ bụghị naanị ịrụ ọrụ site na ịgwakọta.

3. Ị na-ezere ikwu okwu.

I know, I know, idle talk is a stumbling block for introverts. I myself try to avoid it. And yet … Some studies confirm that talking about «nothing and everything» has a good effect on our psychological state.

So, in a series of experiments conducted by psychologists from Chicago, a group of subjects were asked to talk to fellow travelers on a train — that is, to do something that they usually avoided. According to reports, those who chatted with fellow travelers had a more enjoyable journey than those who “enjoyed being alone.”

Ma ka anyị gwubakwuo omimi. Ọ bụ ezie na okwu mkparị na-akwụsịkarị n'onwe ya, mgbe ụfọdụ ọ na-aghọ ihe ọzọ. Mmekọrịta anaghị ebido na mmekọrịta chiri anya. Ịbanye ozugbo n'ime omimi nke mkparịta ụka gị na onye ọ maara ọhụrụ nwere ike ịgbagwoju anya. N'ezie ị nwetala nke a: nkà ige ntị mara mma nke introverts na-eduga n'eziokwu ahụ na anyị na-emeghe karịa ka anyị ga-achọ.

Ngbanwe nke nkebi ahịrịokwu ndị a na-ahụkarị na-enyere aka ịmepụta kọntaktị, na-enye oge iji nwalee ibe gị, gụọ akara ndị na-abụghị okwu, na ịchọta ihe jikọrọ ọnụ. Ọ bụrụ na ihe na-agbakwụnye, mkparịta ụka dị nro nwere ike iduga na mkparịta ụka bara uru karị. Yabụ, ọ bụrụ na ịzenarị ịkparịta ụka, ị na-atụfu ohere iji zute ndị dị mkpa na ndị nwere obi ụtọ.

4. Ị na-eme ka owu na-ama ọ bụla bụ ezigbo owu ọmụma.

M na-ekwu maka nke a nke ukwuu n'ihi na ndudue a na-egbochi m obi ụtọ ruo ogologo oge. Anyị bụ ndị introverts, ma mmadụ niile chọrọ ndị mmadụ, na anyị abụghị otu. Ịnọ n'ụlọ naanị ya bụ ụzọ kachasị mfe iji mee ihe ọ bụla, mana oke owu ọmụma na-emerụ ahụ ma nwee ike iduga n'ọgbụgbọ na ọnọdụ ọjọọ.

N'ụzọ dị mwute, ụzọ kacha mfe iji merie owu ọmụma bụ ịnọ naanị gị. owu ọmụma bụ mmetụta na-eri ihe niile ma dị arọ nke na ọ dị mfe ịnweta ya na ịnọ naanị ya karịa ịhụ ya n'ime ìgwè mmadụ.

Tụkwasị na nke ahụ, echiche anyị gbagọọrọ na-eme ka anyị nọgide na-eme ihe na-adịghị amasị anyị, nanị n’ihi na anyị etinyeworị oge na mgbalị ụfọdụ na ya. Anyị na-agwa onwe anyị na owu ọmụma dị mma, na anyị bụ ndị karịrị mmadụ, n'ihi na ọ na-eru anyị ala ịnọ naanị anyị, ọ bụrụgodị na nke a abụghị eziokwu.

Ndị ọkachamara na-ekwu na ndị owu na-ama na-enwekarị ndị iro. M na-ewerekarị ha dị ka ndị na-adịghị mma, ma ugbu a, m na-eche na ha araparawo nnọọ n'ọgba aghara a jụrụ ajụ.

5. You believe in your «social awkwardness»

Ọ́ bụghị ihe ị na-agwa onwe gị ma ị bịa oriri na nkwari na ahụ́ eruchaghị gị ala ozugbo ahụ? Ma ọ bụ mgbe ị na-enweta ntakịrị ihere n'ihu onye ọbịbịa? Ị na-akasi onwe gị obi site na akụkọ ndị ị nwere enweghị ike ime ka ndị ọzọ masị gị? Atụla anya na ị ga-abụ onye na-akparịta ụka nke ọma? Cheta nkà mmekọrịta gị na-adịghị ike nke na-eme ka ihe omume ọ bụla bụrụ ubi ogbunigwe?

Forget about it. Stop convincing yourself that you are different from the rest. Yes, some people find it easier to communicate, some light up the room with their mere presence. To be honest, these are not the kind of people that I am drawn to, I even find them a little repulsive. I’d rather talk to the man who sits quietly in the corner. Or someone I already know. I don’t go to parties to meet new people — I go there to see people I know.

Onye ọ bụla na-echegbu onwe ya maka mmetụta ha na-enwe. Ndị na-abanye n'ime ụlọ mgbe ha na-agba egwu na-anagide nchegbu ha n'ụzọ dị otú a.

Try not to heighten your natural anxiety by telling yourself that you are «hopeless,» unable to carry on a conversation, and no one will ever notice you. Yes, you are worried. But if you do not suffer from a diagnosed anxiety disorder, this anxiety is not dangerous for you. This is a natural reaction to a new situation.

Na-eche ya, wee gosi ndị mmadụ otú introverts nwere ike isi na-adọrọ mmasị ma ọ bụrụ na ha chọrọ. Gwa onwe gị ka ndị a ga-enwe chioma ma ọ bụrụ na ha emechaa mechie ọnụ ka ha nụ ihe ị na-achọ ikwu!

Banyere onye edemede: Sophia Dambling bụ onye edemede nke nkwupụta nke onye njem nlegharị anya na ọtụtụ akwụkwọ, gụnyere The Introverted Journey: A Quiet Life in a Loud World.